The Anat Tabachnik View

Honest writing on divorce, rebuilding, and what actually helps.

Betrayal

How to talk about the divorce without becoming your story

Scripts for friends, family, colleagues — and the version you tell yourself.

1 minute read
Rebuilding

The 90-day rule: why timeframes beat willpower

Open-ended recovery drifts. Here’s what a defined finish line does to your brain — and

1 minute read
Dating

Dating from standards, not from loneliness

The single distinction that decides whether your next relationship repeats the last one.

1 minute read
Loneliness

Feeling lost at 45: the identity problem nobody names

The loneliness isn’t about being alone. It’s about who disappeared when the marriage ended —

1 minute read
Your kids

What your kids will remember about the divorce at 25

It’s not what you think. The research — and the practical implications for how you

1 minute read
Betrayal

The 2am replay loop — and how to actually stop it

It’s 2am. You’re staring at the ceiling, and your brain has opened the same file

3 minutes read